Saying Goodbye to The social pile

Reading Time: 2 minutes While I can’t say that the coaching demo added anything helpful to my thoughts about using social media in my business and life, it did cement a course of action.

Today is Mum’s Birthday

Reading Time: 3 minutes My Mum was a smart, courageous and funny woman, with a mind of her own. Sometimes it would just be great to sit down and talk with her again.

A Dream from Helen

Reading Time: 4 minutes I found myself standing in a grassy parking lot, watching an older woman – complete with a fetching hat and the kind of handbag mid-century grandmothers used to carry. She turned toward me – and the unknown figure beside me – and wistfully asked: “do you not remember who I am?”

Slow Down

Reading Time: 2 minutes I once had a boss who used to say “the speed of the leader is the speed of the team”. These days, I’ve been finding that at least some of the time, my team needs to be able to set the pace. I’ve been learning that when my team tells me to slow down, it serves to listen.

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Personal Freedom

Reading Time: 2 minutes The separation of self from circumstance is a doorway into personal freedom and emotional integration like no other. To this end, I chose to spend the past 40 days in the deliberate exploration of who I am and what I believe and in the giving up of fast decisions and knowing the answer.

Mindfulness Definition

Reading Time: < 1 minute To intentionally shift the point of focus away from thoughts that do not serve in this moment

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The mindfulness of Lent

Reading Time: 2 minutes The act of doing so used to be called ‘examining ones conscience’ – which is rather appropriate since my practice started at the beginning of Lent. Considering Lent now, I see it as an opportunity to prepare myself for something in the future. I am curious to know what I finally learn and embody from this experience.

BEing First

Reading Time: < 1 minute BEing First isn’t about winning, nor is it about beating others, or even helping others, it’s about knowing who you are and what you stand for relative to the world around you.


Reading Time: 4 minutes I did an experiment once; I counted, for one day, the number of times I was brain-hijacked. It was about 40 – and here I was thinking I was a calm-and-can-handle-anything-that-life -throws-at-me kinda gal. Ha! I’m just saying it was a bad day!

Your Opinion of me

Your Opinion of me is none of my business.

My mother taught me this, for the first time, when I was about 12. Yup, I was at that glorious age when I knew everything was all about me, and that no one else had ever been so noble, righteous or brilliant as I was. (Even as I was falling apart inside over too many hormones!)

Of course, and rightly so, my Mum wasn’t about to let me get away with having a ‘smart mouth’ or making her wrong for all the imagined slights that I had to suffer.

I learned it again at 13; and 14. And finally, when I blamed her for not being supportive enough when my Dad died. He died when I was 6. And between then and much later on I built up a huge reservoir of resentment because my Mum hadn’t treated me the way I wanted.

Never mind that she had lost the love of her life. Never mind she had no intention of ever marrying again. Never mind that in the 60’s in Scotland, that was a pretty radical decision.

I eventually learned the value of what she was trying to teach me – she was teaching me to be independent, to make up my own mind. She was also preparing me for valuing inter-dependence; for having inner strength and for appreciating the humanity in myself and others.

My Mum is no longer alive, and every day I thank her for the learning, and every day, I find myself relearning the lesson, over and over. While I’m sure that my opinion of her still wouldn’t matter, my gratitude and love would.

In Leadership

Everyone has an opinion of a leader – especially when they don’t act in the way we expect, or demand. It is this ability to hold ‘your opinion of me’ without being swayed by it, that is one of the challenges of leadership.

How many times have you allowed yourself to be influenced against your better judgment?
What has it cost you? What did you gain?
And how are these two things balanced for you from a leadership perspective?

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Making It Matter

Reading Time: 2 minutes Personal leadership isn’t about asking the hard questions. It’s about listening for the secret answer – and acting on it without analysing it.

Starting Over

Reading Time: 3 minutes In reality, we only end up taking the mess with us – hidden in a box or a book or a bag that one thought had been discarded. And that mess has an amazing way of turning up just when it is least welcome. And worst of all, when we run away, we often leave behind something of value – a loss that may never be recovered.

The Answer Lies Within

Reading Time: 2 minutes We live – as every generation does – in interesting times. The world is changing more rapidly than ever before. And faster is not necessarily better. Leadership is not driven through reaction, it is driven from a deep well of clarity about what is fundamentally the right action at the right time. It’s about agility, risk, expansion and the chaos of creation.